The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life
Esther Perel
Relationships
Relationships can bring comfort and love, but they can also leave us feeling anxious, distant, or stuck in repeating patterns. These ways of relating often link back to early experiences—understanding them, through what’s known as attachment styles, can help you build safer and more secure connections.
Attachment Styles: What’s Your Style of Connecting?
The way we connect with others often begins in early life and can shape how safe, loved, or understood we feel in relationships today. These patterns—sometimes called attachment styles—aren’t “good” or “bad,” but simply ways we’ve learned to cope and relate.
Recognising your attachment style can bring clarity to why certain situations feel triggering, why you may struggle with closeness or distance, or why you might worry about being left.
The important thing to know is that these patterns are not fixed—you can develop more secure, balanced ways of relating with the right support.
Attachment Styles:
No matter which of these patterns feels familiar, it’s important to remember they are not fixed.
Counselling gives you space to understand how your attachment style shapes your relationships. Together, we can work toward helping you feel more secure in yourself and more connected with others.
By working together, we can help you:
- Understand your own feelings and what you truly need from yourself and others.
- Grow in confidence to speak up and set boundaries that feel right for you.
- Notice patterns in your relationships and gently explore ways to change them.
- Feel more at ease when connecting with the people who matter to you.
- Treat yourself with kindness and develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself.
- Learn how to create connections that feel balanced, supportive, and fulfilling.
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